“But don’t overcompensate with his children while your own suffer,” said Lebotse-Sebego about being in a blended family as one of a range of real-life topics covered at the inaugural Miss to Mrs Bridal Experience in Gaborone over the weekend (BLURB)
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Following years of success in South Africa since 2018, the Miss to Mrs Bridal Experience made its debut in Botswana at the Protea Hotel Masa Square in Gaborone over the weekend.
The event brought women together for a transformative day of knowledge, inspiration and celebration, marking the beginning of what will henceforward be an annual tradition in Botswana.
Founded by Tumi Deane, the platform aims to empower brides with tools and insights for navigating both the personal and legal aspects of marriage.
Living Authentically
Speaking on the topic of Living an Authentic Life, Nana Kgosidialwa assured women that there is nothing wrong with daydreaming. “Imagine living where you are not at war with yourself,” she said, challenging attendees to accept themselves and embrace their passions.
“Commit to living fully, boldly and authentically,” she added, emphasising that personal fulfilment should not be sacrificed on the altar of societal expectations.
Navigating blended families
Tebogo Lebotse-Sebego, who is part of a blended family, shared her insights into raising children with different values. “It’s a delicate balance,” she noted, highlighting the challenges of merging parenting styles.
Her husband believes in the traditional “don’t spare the rod” approach while she prefers gentle parenting. Lebotse-Sebego urged women to approach blended families with love and care, stressing that if one is not committed to loving another person’s children, one should not marry that person.
“But don’t overcompensate with his children while your own suffer,” she warned. “It’s complicated, and kids need therapy to unpack these family dynamics.”
If the shoe doesn’t fit …
Lulu Rasebotsa candidly shared her journey from single, engaged to married, and ultimately divorced. Reflecting on her marriage, she recalled ignoring red flags early on. “As women, we wait for a ton of bricks,” she said.
Despite a glamorous destination wedding and the appearance of the perfect couple, Rasebotsa realised her values were not aligned with her husband’s. “I am a firm believer that if the shoe doesn’t fit, take it off. Deciding to divorce needs a strong support system,” she said, urging women to put their happiness first rather than staying in unhappy marriages for fear of judgment.
Financial wellness
Kitso Ndlovu of Old Mutual spoke on financial planning, urging women to understand their money personalities. From big spenders to savers and dreamers, Ndlovu highlighted how these traits can influence financial stability.
“You need to save with a goal,” he advised, stressing the importance of financial literacy as women transition from Miss to Mrs.
Love, life and adulthood
Communications expert Tumi Gabonamong wrapped up the event by sharing her journey through marriage and motherhood.
Reflecting on her life with her husband and four children, she offered a candid glimpse into mastering adulthood both in and outside the bedroom.